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Do you have a Saboteur in your life?

Weight Watchers

My friend Rachel scanned and emailed her Weight Watchers brochure on the topic after she read my post about supportive partners. While this is a similar subject, I think it’s an even more important topic to discuss because these types of people ARE out there.

The Food Pusher: “Just have a little piece”

The Paranoid Partner: They think you’re going to leave them when you get “skinny”.

The Mother Hen: “You’re getting too skinny, you need to eat.”

The Jealous Joker: “Ordering another salad? You don’t eat real food.”

How to Deal with these Saboteurs

1. Be honest with them. Tell them what you’re trying to do and ask for their support.

2. Get it “To Go” and then don’t eat it.

3. Have a small bite and tell them how great it is. Then STOP eating it.

4. Reassure your partner or friend that the relationship is not going to change when you get healthy. Invite them to join you in the journey!

5. Tell them how important it is to you to get healthy.

6. If the relationship is truly toxic, limit your exposure to them the best you can.

Check out this article with the Washington Post. Their suggestion was to firmly say “No Thank You.”

QUESTION: Do you have any other suggestions for dealing with these situations? Do you have a Saboteur in your life?

About Lisa Eirene
About Lisa Eirene Lisa lost 110 pounds through calorie counting and exercise. She swims, bikes, runs, hikes and is enjoying life in Portland, Oregon. Her weight loss story has been featured in First Magazine, Yahoo Health, Woman's Day and Glamour.com.

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  13 Responses to “Weight Loss Sabatouers”

  1. I TOTALLY had the “Paranoid Partner” that thought I would leave him after I lost all the weight….why I have no idea as my husband has been a body builder for over 10 years and is in excellend shape, but he did then and now that I am looking better each day I find that he says things the imply sometimes that he is worried about that still!

    I tell him it would never happen of course, I mean what women would leave a man (a good looking man at that) that was with her when she was 240+ pounds and loved you for the REAL you and not just your looks……….I know I am not that women!!! =)

  2. P.S. I also have the “Mother Hen” too………as a lot of my co-workers & even my mom had made comments about be getting too skinny or saying things like you want to lose more, why!?!?!

  3. I used to worry about this, but now I am trying to go with the it is not my issue mentality. I think that when most people do this, it is because they are not happy with their own choices or lifestyle. I just try to smile and say no now. I am a grown woman and I don’t want to feel that I have to defend my choices. It sounds rude, even as I type it, but it is the truth.

    • Very Very Wise! I learned that lesson the hard way. I had a friend who wasn’t happy with my changes and we grew apart. For awhile I beat myself up and asked “what did *I* do?” But then I realized that it was all her issue, not mine.

  4. I think sometimes I am just my own sabatoeur. My family is very supportive of me.

  5. I used to have to deal with this a lot (and sometimes still do) but most of the people I interact with on a regular basis are used to my healthy ways and supportive of the lifestyle, so luckily don’t push food on me. I do have a lot of people ask how I can be so good all the time, but I feel like I am very balanced and have my fair share of splurges.

    • That’s a good one, Beth. People think I’m “so good” all the time. But I’m really not an angel when it comes to food. I have my weaknesses but I try to balance them out. :)

  6. I think I have people in my life that fall into each of those categories. My boyfriend tells me how much he loves me now…(I’m just above 200) and how I shouldn’t change a thing, but I’m doing what I’m doing more for my health than for my vanity. I think he’s afraid to look at his own health issues. My mom is a food pusher, telling me that a bite of her cake won’t kill me, but I also think that it makes her feel better to try and make me cheat since she seems to be unable to stick to her own diet despite my help. I have my treats that I like, and I’m not perfect but it bothers me when the people around me try to make me deviate from my diet to make themselves feel better about eating it themselves :(

  7. […] Food Enablers aren’t necessarily evil people. They aren’t always setting us up to fail. Sometimes it’s just the dynamic of the relationship. We all have those friends that fit a certain niche. The friends that we usually go to movies with, the friends we workout with, the friends that like cooking and will happily bring freshly baked cookies to your house, the friends who like to party. […]

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