{"id":29396,"date":"2012-03-19T08:15:15","date_gmt":"2012-03-19T15:15:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=29396"},"modified":"2012-02-27T09:19:14","modified_gmt":"2012-02-27T17:19:14","slug":"body-love-week-structure-perfectionism-and-authentic-living","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=29396","title":{"rendered":"Body Love Week: Structure, Perfectionism, and Authentic Living"},"content":{"rendered":"

This week on 110 Pounds, we’ll be discussing the important topic of Body Loving. Here is the first post to kick off the positive body image week. Enjoy. -Lisa<\/em><\/p>\n

Structure, Perfectionism, and Authentic Living<\/span><\/h2>\n

Guest Post By<\/em><\/h3>\n

Mara Glatzel<\/em><\/h3>\n

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I have this thing about routines.<\/p>\n

When I was a compulsive eater, it often looked like this: there is absolute chaos around me, I am exhausted, have been eating food that doesn\u2019t work for my body for far too long, and I can\u2019t remember the last time I got up and moved. I remember reeling as though I would do almost anything to just pull myself together.<\/p>\n

So then, I would dream up a little structure for myself. Spoiler alert: it was rigid and filled with steadfast rules. Spoiler alert no. 2: it always always ended back up in chaos. And I would be disappointed in myself. Again.<\/p>\n

Then the cycle would repeat itself.<\/p>\n

I was really good at dreaming up the routines. I was so good, in fact, that they were air tight, with little room for actual real life. I would suddenly find myself at a party or out of the house for 12 hours, and my routines would come crumbling down all around me.<\/p>\n

It took a long time for me to realize that crumbling into chaos wasn\u2019t mandatory, that I could slip, altering my steadfast routine, without chucking the whole thing out the window. It took a long time for me to realize that every second was a second to turn it all around.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Every bite was a second to turn it all around. A moment to make choices that were better aligned with those things that make me feel good.<\/p>\n

It took me quite some time to realize that I deserved to feel good<\/strong>, that \u201ctreating myself sweetly\u201d did not mean \u201ctreating myself to sweets.\u201d<\/p>\n

It was during that time that I realized I needed just a handful of rules, let\u2019s call it a gentle structure containing things that I worked to maintain in my daily life, even when I was too busy for everything else.<\/p>\n

My baseline.<\/p>\n

The few things that I needed to do consistently to keep myself operating on an even playing field. \u00a0And even these rules were made to be broken – sometimes<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Even when we can acknowledge that there are certain things that we need, say 7 hours of sleep, 8-10 glasses of water, or some semblance of vegetables in every meal, we have to allow ourselves the opportunity to color outside the lines. If we can find a way to approach ourselves with relentless compassion instead of brutality or negative self-talk, it is possible that we can head off a tailspin back into our more chaotic behaviors.<\/strong> If we can find a way to make space for the life that we like living somewhere within the matrix of our necessary rule set, it may be possible to strike a comfortable balance between authentic living and teetering on the brink of personal disaster.<\/p>\n

Not everyone will understand this feeling, but when you are someone who has recovered from a lifetime of any sort of disordered eating or problematic relationship with food, we have to re-learn how to trust ourselves.<\/strong> We have to take precautions in order to safeguard our new found feelings of self-worth and self-love.<\/p>\n

I have found that it will become easy over time, natural even, but in the interim, it is important to be very kind to yourself.<\/strong> You will mess up, you will make mistakes, you will be disappointed in yourself, but it is crucial to take a moment to remember that you are doing the best that you can<\/strong><\/em>.<\/p>\n

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Bio<\/span>: Mara Glatzel is a self-love coach<\/a> and author of the body image + authentic living<\/a> blog, Medicinal Marzipan. If you enjoyed this post, catch up with her (almost) daily body-loving antics and general rabble-rousing on facebook, \u00a0twitter<\/a>, or shoot her an email.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

QUESTION: Do you have compassion for yourself?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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