{"id":34874,"date":"2012-11-08T08:01:50","date_gmt":"2012-11-08T16:01:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=34874"},"modified":"2012-11-06T10:45:22","modified_gmt":"2012-11-06T18:45:22","slug":"i-feel-fat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=34874","title":{"rendered":"I Feel Fat"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/11\/fat.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-34881\" title=\"fat\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/11\/fat-231x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"231\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/11\/fat-231x300.jpg 231w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/11\/fat.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 231px) 100vw, 231px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t you hate those &#8220;I feel fat&#8221; days? I know I&#8217;m not fat. I know I didn&#8217;t gain 50 pounds overnight. And yet&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>Where did this mentality of \u00a0&#8220;I feel fat&#8221; come from and become socially acceptable? Have you ever noticed that when you get together with your girlfriends, the conversation often drifts to &#8220;I feel fat&#8221; or <a href=\"http:\/\/www.workoutnirvana.com\/what-is-the-obsession-with-body-weight\/\">&#8220;I need to lose some weight&#8221;<\/a>?\u00a0Isn&#8217;t the phrase &#8220;I feel fat&#8221; just a veiled &#8220;I don&#8217;t like myself or my body&#8221; statement?<\/p>\n<p>For years my mom harped on me about something called negative self-talk. It was kind of abstract for me when I was a teenager and it really didn&#8217;t resonate with me. Her telling me to stop the negative self-talk didn&#8217;t DO anything, I didn&#8217;t change my thinking.<\/p>\n<h4>Fake It Til You Make It<\/h4>\n<p>When I was slowly (sometimes painfully so) losing my weight, I was grasping at straws to stay positive. I knew that if I let that negative voice creep into my mind, I&#8217;d go off the rails and return to my old habits. For me, food was an emotional crutch. This time around, I did not want to fail. I had a goal I wanted to reach, losing weight was a necessity, failing was NOT an option. \u00a0So what did I do? I faked it til I made it. I told myself I was happy, I WOULD lose the weight, I WOULD reach goal, I would not fail. Even if I didn&#8217;t\u00a0<em>really\u00a0<\/em>believe it yet, I told myself those things and eventually I did start to believe them!<\/p>\n<p>The &#8220;I feel fat&#8221; voice in my head was slowly disappearing. It was being replaced with the &#8220;Oh my god, I lost more weight!&#8221; voice that made me feel happy and encouraged.<\/p>\n<p>For the first time, I understood what my mom meant about negative self-talk. For so many years I&#8217;d been telling myself I would always be fat, I couldn&#8217;t lose weight, etc etc and that kept me from even TRYING. Why try? I already knew I was going to fail at it! But was that the truth? Was that the voice I should be listening to? No.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #008000;\">&#8220;Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we&#8217;ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.&#8221;\u00a0-Barack Obama\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>It&#8217;s kind of a &#8220;If you keep\u00a0on\u00a0doing what you&#8217;ve always done, you&#8217;ll\u00a0keep\u00a0on getting what you&#8217;ve always got&#8221; notion. So why aren&#8217;t we <em>trying<\/em>?<\/p>\n<h4>Fat Is Not A Feeling<\/h4>\n<p>Recently I had a return of the &#8220;I feel fat&#8221; feelings. I stopped and asked myself:\u00a0<em><strong>What am I REALLY feeling?\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>I was feeling stressed. I was feeling overwhelmed. I was feeling tired. I was feeling guilty for eating too much Halloween candy.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/11\/images.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-34882\" title=\"images\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/11\/images.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Final thoughts: Wear clothing that makes you feel good (too baggy isn&#8217;t good, or too tight either!). Keep doing what works, stop doing what doesn&#8217;t. Change the behavior, change the negative voice. Fake it til you make it. I needed that reminder recently!<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>QUESTION: What&#8217;s your take on this?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Don&#8217;t you hate those &#8220;I feel fat&#8221; days? I know I&#8217;m not fat. I know I didn&#8217;t gain 50 pounds overnight. And yet&#8230;. Where did this mentality of \u00a0&#8220;I feel fat&#8221; come from and become socially acceptable? 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