{"id":39690,"date":"2013-08-14T08:19:35","date_gmt":"2013-08-14T15:19:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=39690"},"modified":"2013-07-29T14:19:33","modified_gmt":"2013-07-29T21:19:33","slug":"how-do-i-look-or-how-do-i-feel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=39690","title":{"rendered":"How Do I Look? Or, How Do I Feel?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m pretty sure my boyfriend hates that time of the month.<\/p>\n<p>Nope, not THAT time. It&#8217;s the one time of the month that I weigh myself. I&#8217;ve been doing the once a month step on the scale for about 3 or 4 years now. I had to limit it because I was getting a little too obsessed with whatever that number was and I let it ruin my whole day. It could have been +1 pound (probably water retention) but I still let it totally deflate me. It wasn&#8217;t a healthy cycle to get into and since I was pretty much maintaining (within 2-3 pounds both ways), I didn&#8217;t NEED to get on the scale every week. In fact, I found that my weight always leveled out and remained the same when I let the hormonal flux each week even out on it&#8217;s own. Weighing once a month meant I never saw that 3 pound boost of pre-hormonal water retention. It was like it never happened!<\/p>\n<p>Weighing in once a month took away that obsession with the scale. Or at least, for 3 weeks of the month. Having a set time and day that I weigh each months means that I can check in with myself, catch any slip-ups that might mean I need to reign in the food, and it&#8217;s consistent. I was between 143-145 for nearly 4 years.<\/p>\n<p>So why does Michael hate that time of the month? The day (and let&#8217;s be honest, sometimes the day before I weigh in) I see that number STILL fills me with anxiety. I anticipate it&#8211;<em>&#8220;I have to weigh myself this Thursday.&#8221;<\/em> UGH. It&#8217;s only Monday but I see that day coming quickly and I start to dread it. I feel like a whiny kid that doesn&#8217;t want to do their chores. I\u00a0<em>just don&#8217;t WANNA!<\/em> But I have to. It&#8217;s my check-in.<\/p>\n<p>Depending on what that number is, it can still <a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=34874\">ruin whatever good body image feelings <\/a>I&#8217;ve been having. I cannot tell you how many times I&#8217;m thinking &#8220;I feel really good about my body today!&#8221; And then I see the number on the scale and that feeling is gone. Replaced with disappointment, sometimes sadness, sometimes self-loathing&#8230;but only if I don&#8217;t catch myself quickly enough to stop the negative spiral of thoughts. Poor Michael. He has to deal with me throwing a mini temper tantrum in the bathroom if I don&#8217;t like that number. He says the same thing every time I don&#8217;t like that number: &#8220;You&#8217;re fine. You haven&#8217;t gained weight. It&#8217;s water\/it&#8217;s muscle&#8221; etc etc. I appreciate that he says that, but honestly I hate that he feels like he has to and half the time I don&#8217;t hear him anyway. I&#8217;m stuck in my own thoughts.<\/p>\n<p>For the most part this isn&#8217;t an issue. It&#8217;s not an every month kind of thing. Just lately. I was doing really well for a long time and when I stopped basically all the cardio I was doing in March of this year (knees again), I started to see my weight go up a little bit. It wasn&#8217;t hitting the danger zone yet, but it wasn&#8217;t making me happy.<\/p>\n<p>Yet I was seeing such awesome results in the gym! My shoulders were sculpted. My biceps were bigger, my triceps were more toned and slender. I felt like my core strength had increased and I was almost up to a minute doing a plank (honestly, I get bored after awhile and quit instead of keeping the pose to see how far I can go). I saw a picture of myself recently in my cycling jersey and thought,\u00a0<em>&#8220;Wow, my waist looks really slender and my stomach is smaller.&#8221;\u00a0<\/em>AND my pants are still fitting. I haven&#8217;t felt like I&#8217;ve grown out of the sizes I&#8217;ve worn for 5 years.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/sheddaquarium.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-39705\" alt=\"sheddaquarium\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/sheddaquarium-300x225.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/sheddaquarium-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/sheddaquarium.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/magazine7.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-39704\" alt=\"magazine7\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/magazine7.jpg\" width=\"480\" height=\"720\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/magazine7.jpg 480w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/magazine7-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 480px) 100vw, 480px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Why, then, do I let myself get so bent out of shape about that stupid number that I see once a month?\u00a0Sadly, this is probably something I will always struggle with. But I&#8217;m working on <a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=31462\">focusing on the positives<\/a> (my clothes fit, I like how I feel, etc) and not focusing on the negatives.<\/p>\n<p>Can you focus on how you feel and not how you look (or how much you weigh)?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m pretty sure my boyfriend hates that time of the month. Nope, not THAT time. It&#8217;s the one time of the month that I weigh myself. I&#8217;ve been doing the once a month step on the scale for about 3 or 4 years now. I had to limit it because I was getting a little [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_s2mail":"yes","footnotes":""},"categories":[154,317,318,319,295,297,298,3372],"tags":[7344,1754,8713,8755,8757,8758],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39690"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=39690"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39690\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":39890,"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39690\/revisions\/39890"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=39690"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=39690"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=39690"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}