{"id":43327,"date":"2014-06-30T08:38:08","date_gmt":"2014-06-30T15:38:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=43327"},"modified":"2014-06-28T21:20:41","modified_gmt":"2014-06-29T04:20:41","slug":"wedding-confession","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=43327","title":{"rendered":"Wedding Confession"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Last week I was having a hard time. I was hormonal, I was grumpy, I’d had a bad headache for several days, our dishwasher broke, our pantry was attacked by sugar ants, I’d been taking care of most things around the house because of Michael’s back, and just in the mix of all of that my knee had a flare up…something I hadn’t experienced in a long time and it was lingering. Whenever my knee acts up like that I get very depressed. Suddenly the idea of walking across the room seems like it’s miles long instead of a few feet.<\/p>\n

During this time I was also doing a little stress eating. When I’m super stressed out I default to food. I wish I wasn’t that way. I wish I could turn off that default and not use food as the salve. A lot of the time I can use exercise instead–but when you’re injured and that’s not an option it’s easy to feel lost. What sucks is that it is NEVER RUNNING that gives me Runner’s Knee. It always seems to be something else. Why? Why!<\/p>\n

The animals are pretty good at sensing when I’m upset or need some cuddles. Fat Kitty is always spot on. I was crying about my knee and he jumped on the bed and started sniffing my tears. Dork. But it made me laugh and that cheered me up a little. Bella did too:<\/p>\n

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I was at work one day and had been partaking in treats from the Candy Room<\/a>. I’d made three stops there in one day. Not good but at least one of those stops was just for chewing gum. The last stop was right before a meeting and I got about 1\/2 a serving (maybe even less) of cashews to munch on. I kind of grumbled about visiting the candy stash too much that day and one of my coworkers said, “Are you going to be able to fit in your wedding dress?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

My first reaction was to think,\u00a0THANK YOU. Thank you for slapping me in the face with that reality<\/em>.<\/span> <\/strong>The wedding is coming up, I’m anxious about a lot of stuff, my knee is CRANKY right now and I’m starting to stress out about my weight. Maybe this is the reality check that will scare me enough into being better with my food?<\/p>\n

My next reaction was to feel deflated and sad. Like,\u00a0yeah right that dress won’t fit now…<\/em>And go through the typical cycle of negative self-talk — the “I’m so fat” and “Why can’t I lose weight” and “Why can’t I make better choices?” In that moment of self-pity and self-loathing I wrote about the interaction on Twitter. A very sweet blogger buddy of mine responded with this:<\/p>\n

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Like my coworker’s insensitive joke, it was also a reality check. DUH. This wedding isn’t about the dress or the flowers or whether or not we serve fancy wedding cake (that doesn’t taste very good anyways). The wedding is about Michael and I celebrating our relationship and future together. It’s about JUST BEING ME because that’s who Michael proposed to. So why am I putting so much pressure on myself?<\/p>\n

Karla also sent me a link to this article:\u00a0Why We Need To Stop Talking About What Women Are\u00a0Eating<\/a>. It was a good article discussing a lot of topics around food, body image, weight loss and women’s self-esteem. I could relate to a lot of what was said. Here are two snippets:<\/p>\n

“We all had to take health class but we didn\u2019t learn A THING because all of us thought that skipping breakfast and eating Skittles for lunch was the way to stay thin, which A) didn\u2019t work and B) made us dumb, because we were 14 years old and didn\u2019t have any actual fuel to think. If I were teaching health class today, I\u2019d do a special part where I\u2019d say, \u201cAs teens, you shouldn\u2019t feel like you have to diet, but let me be very clear: Not eating doesn\u2019t make you skinny.\u201d On repeat.”<\/span><\/p>\n

“I think it also highlights just how quickly our body standards\/ideals change \u2014 15, 20 years ago, it was ALL ABOUT the heroin-chic super-skinny Kate Moss look. Now it\u2019s all Pilates arms: You should look toned, but not TOO ripped, because then you\u2019re scary Madonna. Such an impossible line to tread.”<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I don’t know that the article made me feel any better but it was interesting. Anyways, this post doesn’t really have any wrap up or solution or easy answer. Still kinda feeling crappy about it! I keep repeating to myself that the wedding isn’t about how much I weigh and my knee will get better. Maybe one day soon I will believe it…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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