{"id":48466,"date":"2016-02-23T08:27:07","date_gmt":"2016-02-23T16:27:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=48466"},"modified":"2016-02-22T09:28:39","modified_gmt":"2016-02-22T17:28:39","slug":"self-care-anxiety-and-post-partum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=48466","title":{"rendered":"Self-Care, Anxiety and Post-Partum"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve struggled with depression and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=40312\">anxiety<\/a> most of my life. I&#8217;ve taken medications on and off, I&#8217;ve been in therapy. After years of therapy and reflection I believe that my issue is mainly anxiety, not depression. While they can go hand-in-hand, anxiety seems to be my biggest problem. I&#8217;ve had a lot of therapists over the years, and different types. I&#8217;ve gone years without therapy or medication. I know that exercise helps a LOT with the issues I have.<\/p>\n<p>The most recent time I was seeing a counselor, I really liked her a lot. She&#8217;d also lost a lot of weight (like 80 pounds I think?) and for the first time I was able to work through some body issue stuff that most people, and most counselors, can&#8217;t relate to. She understood. She was great! Then she went out on maternity leave and I had the option to see someone else but decided not to. Of course, she decided not to come back so I couldn&#8217;t see her anymore anyways if she came back. It&#8217;s been over a year since I&#8217;ve seen a therapist and decided it was time to go back.<\/p>\n<p>The search for someone new began.<\/p>\n<p>This part\u00a0<em>sucks<\/em>. Big time. Like I said, I&#8217;ve had dozens over the years. I moved, insurance changes, therapists leave, etc etc. So I am well-versed in the &#8220;find a new therapist, give them the cliffsnotes version and see if we&#8217;re a good match&#8221; routine. It still sucks. I hate starting over.<\/p>\n<p>This time, I was on a mission. My focus was not going to be body issues or other issues I&#8217;ve discussed in therapy in the past. This time I had something very specific to discuss: post-partum depression (PPD).<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ft1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-48470\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ft1.jpg\" alt=\"[ File # csp10663613, License # 1918991 ] Licensed through http:\/\/www.canstockphoto.com in accordance with the End User License Agreement (http:\/\/www.canstockphoto.com\/legal.php) (c) Can Stock Photo Inc. \/ kbuntu\" width=\"600\" height=\"450\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ft1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ft1-300x225.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Knowing my history with anxiety and depression, being off medications for a year and a half, not knowing what it would be like after the baby arrives, I knew it was good to find someone to talk to NOW and make sure I&#8217;m on the right track. I felt like it was better to be prepared. Know the warning signs. Learn some coping skills NOW. Try and avoid what may (or may not) happen.<\/p>\n<p>I know very little about <a href=\"http:\/\/www.apa.org\/pi\/women\/programs\/depression\/postpartum.aspx\">PPD<\/a>. And I find that in my reading, not a lot of people talk about it. I don&#8217;t know why. It seems like it&#8217;s a common occurrence.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">&#8220;Postpartum depression is depression that occurs after having a baby.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">The symptoms of postpartum depression are similar to symptoms for depression, but they also include:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Trouble sleeping when your baby sleeps (more than the lack of sleep new moms usually get).<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Feeling numb or disconnected from your baby.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Having scary or negative thoughts about the baby, like thinking someone will take your baby away or hurt your baby.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Worrying that you will hurt the baby.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #333399;\">Feeling guilty about not being a good mom, or ashamed that you cannot care for your baby.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">According to a CDC survey, 8 to 19% of women reported having frequent postpartum depressive symptoms. (<a style=\"color: #333399;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.cdc.gov\/reproductivehealth\/depression\/\">CDC<\/a>)&#8221;<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>I&#8217;ve seen stats that are kind of all over the place but the general number seems to be between 11-20% of women suffer from PPD. Reading more into it, I feel like what *I* personally need to be more aware of is <a href=\"http:\/\/www.parents.com\/parenting\/moms\/healthy-mom\/the-other-postpartum-problem-anxiety\/\">Post-Partum Anxiety<\/a>. Considering that anxiety has been my biggest issue (far over depression), it stands to reason that this could become an issue.<\/p>\n<p>Something that I&#8217;ve found disappointing with the blog world is the lack of disclosure and the sugar-coating of things. Blogs I loved to read&#8230;I ended up feeling disappointed because they&#8217;d have a baby and everything would be portrayed as rainbows and sunshine and everything was PERFECT. Then,\u00a0<em>sometimes<\/em> (but not always), they&#8217;d share months later that things weren&#8217;t the perfect portrayal they presented. They struggled. Baby was tongue-tied and couldn&#8217;t breastfeed, everyone was suffering stress and exhaustion, mom suffered from PPD, etc etc.<\/p>\n<p>I just wish there was more of a community, more transparency, more honesty. I feel like women are expected to be perfect, not complain about anything&#8230;when the reality might be very different and wouldn&#8217;t it be NICE to be surrounded by people that understand? And have been through it? Can relate? Can assist? Why isn&#8217;t there more of a community??<\/p>\n<p>Anyways&#8230;I saw a new therapist and discussed my concerns with her. I really like the new person I&#8217;m seeing. She&#8217;s a behaviorist and with just a few sessions I already felt like I understood\u00a0how to &#8220;fix&#8221; anxiety better with HER than any other therapists I&#8217;ve seen.<\/p>\n<h4>My post-partum plan:<\/h4>\n<p>Of course this is just a plan, it may or may not happen. But it&#8217;s my goal, at the very least.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Take a shower and get dressed every day.<\/li>\n<li>When cleared by my doctor, get back to exercising when I can. I know myself and I know that physical activity helps with my anxiety. Even if it&#8217;s just taking the little boy and Bella outside for a walk every single day, I need to do something.<\/li>\n<li>Continue going to therapy and learn coping skills for my anxiety.<\/li>\n<li>Self-care!<\/li>\n<li>Get out of the house, see friends and family, do outings! I know myself and being cooped up in the house will make me a little crazy. \ud83d\ude42 I get stir-crazy after being home sick with a cold for a few days!<\/li>\n<li>Learn to ask for help, and accept help when it&#8217;s offered.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I talked to a friend recently who suffers from debilitating anxiety. I understand that my anxiety is not a panic disorder (like hers is) and that I do already have SOME coping skills that help me with my anxiety. I&#8217;m doing\u00a0<em>okay<\/em>&#8211;is my anxiety conquered? Not by a long shot. But I am managing it. Anyways, my friend is in cognitive behavioral therapy and she had a fabulous suggestion that she&#8217;s being doing for her anxiety. When the panic and anxiety starts to take hold, she closes her eyes and tries to name 5 sounds she hears in that moment. She said it&#8217;s really helpful to get her to focus on something else, calm down, take the rising panic out of the anxiety and try and re-focus her energy and mental thread. I&#8217;ve tried it and it works!<\/p>\n<p>I really struggle with vague &#8220;just try to refocus your thoughts&#8221; kind of advice, which is why some therapists have just not worked for me before. I don&#8217;t do abstract. Don&#8217;t just tell me to be &#8220;mindful&#8221; tell me what that MEANS. Tell me what it LOOKS like to be &#8220;mindful.&#8221; So I tried my friend&#8217;s advice and I liked it. Trying to name 5 sounds I hear in the moment of anxiety is a good distraction.<\/p>\n<h4><a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/self-care.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-48473\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/self-care-300x206.jpg\" alt=\"self-care\" width=\"400\" height=\"275\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/self-care-300x206.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/self-care.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><br \/>\nSelf-Care<\/h4>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/tinybuddha.com\/blog\/45-simple-self-care-practices-for-a-healthy-mind-body-and-soul\/\">Self-care<\/a> is kind of a popular buzzword these days but it really is important. In the past self-care for me looked like this: spending time with friends, working out, treating myself to a pedicure, getting regular massages (thank you insurance!), having downtime to read and watch Netflix, cuddling with my fur-babies.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve started keeping a list of things I want to do. Here are some ideas I found on <a href=\"http:\/\/psychcentral.com\/blog\/archives\/2013\/11\/24\/practicing-self-care-during-stressful-times\/\">self-care<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"entry-title theme-genericon\"><a href=\"http:\/\/theselfcompassionproject.com\/2013\/06\/03\/80-self-care-ideas\/\">80+ Self-Care Ideas<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"entry-title theme-genericon\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/blog\/shyness-is-nice\/201403\/seven-types-self-care-activities-coping-stress\">Seven Types of Self-Care Activities for Coping with Stress<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"entry-title theme-genericon\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/134-activities-to-add-to-your-self-care-plan\">134 Activities to Add to Your Self-Care Plan<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"entry-title theme-genericon\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/ashlee-gadd\/you-just-had-a-baby_b_6439326.html\">You Just Had a Baby<\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-48474 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14.jpg\" alt=\"ALT_3.24.14\" width=\"550\" height=\"550\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14.jpg 550w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14-96x96.jpg 96w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14-24x24.jpg 24w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14-36x36.jpg 36w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14-48x48.jpg 48w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/ALT_3.24.14-64x64.jpg 64w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 550px) 100vw, 550px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m so excited about the baby&#8217;s arrival! I want to BE PREPARED the best I can so I can enjoy every second of this amazing journey we are about to go on.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Do you have any advice or can you relate to this? What helped you?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve struggled with depression and anxiety most of my life. I&#8217;ve taken medications on and off, I&#8217;ve been in therapy. After years of therapy and reflection I believe that my issue is mainly anxiety, not depression. While they can go hand-in-hand, anxiety seems to be my biggest problem. 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