{"id":53154,"date":"2017-09-05T07:19:18","date_gmt":"2017-09-05T14:19:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=53154"},"modified":"2017-09-01T19:20:01","modified_gmt":"2017-09-02T02:20:01","slug":"checking-in","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=53154","title":{"rendered":"Checking In"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s been a few weeks since <a href=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?p=53067\">Yggdrasil passed away.<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53171\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/305924_10151536810237527_1288808846_n.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"960\" height=\"640\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/305924_10151536810237527_1288808846_n.jpg 960w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/305924_10151536810237527_1288808846_n-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/305924_10151536810237527_1288808846_n-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/305924_10151536810237527_1288808846_n-690x460.jpg 690w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The next day, Michael suggested we go for an easy family hike to get me out of the house. It was a good idea. That week following his death was hard for me. I cried a lot. For the first days I kept expecting to see him in the house&#8211;sunbathing by the window, sleeping on Bella&#8217;s dog bed, burrowed underneath the covers on the bed (his favorite spot)&#8211;and when he wasn&#8217;t there, I was reminded.<\/p>\n<p>Every day got a little bit easier, I guess. I got distracted with other stuff and was able to get a few hours a day of relief from grieving. But nevertheless, it would come back. I know time will heal the sadness, but it&#8217;s been hard.<\/p>\n\n\t\t<style type=\"text\/css\">\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 {\n\t\t\t\tmargin: auto;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-item {\n\t\t\t\tfloat: left;\n\t\t\t\tmargin-top: 10px;\n\t\t\t\ttext-align: center;\n\t\t\t\twidth: 50%;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 img {\n\t\t\t\tborder: 2px solid #cfcfcf;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-caption {\n\t\t\t\tmargin-left: 0;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t\/* see gallery_shortcode() in wp-includes\/media.php *\/\n\t\t<\/style>\n\t\t<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-53154 gallery-columns-2 gallery-size-full'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?attachment_id=53170'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"720\" height=\"960\" src=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/20882200_10155463212317527_3042462107726386899_n.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/20882200_10155463212317527_3042462107726386899_n.jpg 720w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/20882200_10155463212317527_3042462107726386899_n-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/20882200_10155463212317527_3042462107726386899_n-690x920.jpg 690w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 720px) 100vw, 720px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/?attachment_id=53169'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"720\" height=\"960\" src=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/20952976_10155463212402527_2776106585138562034_n.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/20952976_10155463212402527_2776106585138562034_n.jpg 720w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/20952976_10155463212402527_2776106585138562034_n-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/20952976_10155463212402527_2776106585138562034_n-690x920.jpg 690w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 720px) 100vw, 720px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt><\/dl><br style=\"clear: both\" \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p>Yggdrasil was such a big part of my life for so many years. I was definitely in denial that anything would ever happen to him. And when it got towards the end, I was still in denial. I kept thinking&#8230;maybe he would get a little better and we&#8217;d have more time. I know now, after the fact, that it was clearly time. But it&#8217;s been a hard realization.<\/p>\n<p>I miss him a lot. Being busy has helped. It&#8217;s the downtime that makes me sad.<\/p>\n<p>About a week after his death, we got the call that his ashes were ready to be picked up. I immediately burst into tears because the realization that he was truly gone hit me.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-53184\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/FullSizeRender-2-1-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/FullSizeRender-2-1-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/FullSizeRender-2-1-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/FullSizeRender-2-1-690x920.jpg 690w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/FullSizeRender-2-1-980x1307.jpg 980w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I cried a little bit when Michael brought the ashes home, but at the same time I felt a little bit better having him &#8220;home.&#8221; I really loved how great <a href=\"https:\/\/www.drlorigibson.com\/\">Compassionate Care Portland<\/a>\u00a0was. They were so amazing during the goodbye and I paid extra to get Yggdrasil&#8217;s paw prints and to get a clay paw print made. I absolutely loved how they turned out and they are so special to me. I plan on making a little photo box memorial with the paw prints and some photos.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53172\" src=\"http:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/403080_10150605341137527_1765133011_n.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"960\" height=\"640\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/403080_10150605341137527_1765133011_n.jpg 960w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/403080_10150605341137527_1765133011_n-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/403080_10150605341137527_1765133011_n-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.110pounds.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/403080_10150605341137527_1765133011_n-690x460.jpg 690w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>That first week that Yggdrasil was gone was hard on Maya, too. For 14 years she&#8217;s been by his side. They loved each other so much. She cried a lot that first week. I feel like she was telling me she missed him, that she was lonely, and it broke my heart. For a few nights, my scaredy-cat Maya came out at bedtime and wanted me to give her pets.<\/p>\n<p>She hasn&#8217;t done that for like 10 years. Yggdrasil was my shadow. Maya never really seemed to like me. She likes Michael and lets him pet her but she&#8217;s just not a cuddly, lap cat like Yggdrasil was. It was nice that she came to me wanting me to pet her. For three nights in a row, she let me pet her for over 30 minutes! Shocking!<\/p>\n<p>I was hoping Maya would continue to want pets from me, but she&#8217;s back to being standoffish. \ud83d\ude41<\/p>\n<p>How have I been doing? I guess ok. It&#8217;s sunk in that Yggdrasil is gone and I&#8217;m sad and I miss him, but I&#8217;m trying to grieve and process the loss. I haven&#8217;t been taking the best care of myself. I&#8217;m working out, I&#8217;m counting my calories but I don&#8217;t have the best appetite and when I do, I&#8217;m not making the best choices. I&#8217;m just trying to do what I can right now.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s been a few weeks since Yggdrasil passed away. The next day, Michael suggested we go for an easy family hike to get me out of the house. It was a good idea. That week following his death was hard for me. I cried a lot. 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