Here is a new book list! Enjoy!
Mild spoilers–but you can guess them pretty early on.
Julia is a divorce attorney who recently told her husband she wants a divorce. Nothing sordid–she just doesn’t love him anymore. He doesn’t take it well but things kind of get set aside when their 5 year old daughter, Anna, goes missing. Julia was late picking her up from school.
The story is about looking for Anna, who is missing for 7 days, but really it’s more about what happens when she is returned and how Julia’s life is turned upside down. There seems to be a campaign in the media to paint her as a horrible mother…and of course that leads to a custody battle.
I won’t give any more away. The ending was really good. The book was well written and as a mother you definitely feel the rollercoaster ride of emotions–the terror and fear of a missing child and then the rage and outrage of the custody issues later. You will not be able to put this book down.
2 ) I’m Fine…and Other Lies by Whitney Cummings
I’ve been a fan of Whitney for a long time. Back in the day before she got big, she was on Howard Stern a lot and used to do the Comedy Central Roasts and she was brutally funny. I also loved her TV show and was bummed when it got cancelled!
The book is good. It’s about her life and her journey (more internal stuff than a typical memoir) and while she covers some heavy issues, it’s very, very funny.
She writes about her struggles with being codependent.
“Codependents have low self-esteem and would rather focus on the needs of others than their own…Codependents are people pleasers who have an extreme need for approval, feel a sense of guilt when standing up for themselves, and can’t tolerate the discomfort of others. [pg 29]”
“…as adults we tend to re-create whatever happened to us as kids so our minds can maintain the chemical equilibrium that we’ve acclimated to. Being disappointed was my comfort zone so my brain would choose familiar insanity over unfamiliar sanity every time. [pg 35]”
While I don’t think I’m codependent, I could relate to this quote a lot:
“As a codependent, I mastered the art of giving my energy away. Before I got a handle on this nasty beast, I was always exhausted. [pg 40]”
I feel like I often give, give, give and then I end up feeling depleted and drained and stressed out. I used to have a hard time saying no to people and things I didn’t want to do. But having a kid gave me a built in “out.” 😉 Some people are just energy vampires and I’ve learned the older I get to weed those people out–the people that make me feel drained and tired after spending time with them, instead of feeling energized or happy. I think we can all think of people like that in our lives.
Whitney writes a lot about that and how she overcame it, and how she’s currently working on herself. It was really interesting to read about and I could relate to a lot of stuff she described. She writes about her experiences dating, her experiences with sexism in Hollywood (and elsewhere), among other things. She also wrote about a very infuriating experience she had a coffee shop that I could TOTALLY relate to:
“Like every woman I know, I’ve been made to feel uncomfortable and unsafe by aggressive men at one point or another, but this was the first time since my childhood that I felt literally unseen. These men didn’t harass me, they just ignored me completely. I realized that day that it’s very hard to defend yourself against someone who doesn’t know you exist. [pg 85]”
Whitney also wrote about being anorexic.
“From fourteen to eighteen, I ate mostly rice cakes, nonfat yogurt and apples. I became irrationally terrified of fat…Eating disorders can be all-consuming brain take-overs that blind you to reality, so my brain became a labyrinth of self-deception. [pg 119]”
She is also an animal rights activist and dog-rescuer. I’ve followed her on instagram for a long time and love that she has pitbulls. She writes a chapter about her dogs and the pitbulls she’s rescued. She also described the accident she had with one of her dogs (she almost lost her ear) and what she learned about dog training and behavior because of her accident. It’s really fascinating stuff.
Overall I loved the book. Once in awhile she’d get a little woo-woo with her various therapies and psychics (LOL) but she seems very down to earth and like she’s trying her best to figure her shit out and improve herself.
3 ) Paper Ghosts by Julia Heaberlin
This was such an odd book…I’m not even sure I could describe it well enough to do it justice. Carl Feldman was once a great photographer but then he was tried and acquitted for the murder of a young woman. It’s now current day and he’s in a halfway house for people with dementia.
Grace is the mysterious woman who takes Carl on a road trip to the old scenes of crimes she suspects him of committing. And one of the missing girls she thinks he killed was her sister, Rachel. She’s trying to jog his memory so he will tell her where Rachel’s body is buried.
Except that the road trip kind of bonds them together and she discovers so many other secrets that she wasn’t expecting. The story is a bit murky but it’s pretty unique and engaging!
4 ) I’m Just Happy To Be Here: A Memoir of Renegade Mothering by Janelle Hanchett
Right before she was supposed to graduate from college, 20 year old Janelle discovered she was pregnant. She was young, stupid, and the father was someone she’d been dating for 3 months. It sounded like her childhood was equal parts chaotic and nurturing, with what we later learn in the book sounds like a bipolar mom.
Janelle and Mac decide to keep the pregnancy. This book is a memoir of Janelle’s life, her decent into postpartum depression and her struggle with addiction. A few months after giving birth, they get married at the courthouse and she is so miserable in her new body she wears black:
“But motherhood, motherhood is a trap. It’s like the goddamn ‘Hotel California’: You can check out, but you can never leave. [pg 47]”
“…I had recently given birth and felt betrayed by my body, with its giant belly hanging low, withered and stretched beneath alien milk tits. So I bought a black skirt and blouse, as if it were a funeral, though I merely wanted to hide behind cotton shadows. [pg 48]”
Postpartum depression seemed to be the beginning of her alcoholism, but maybe it was always there. She eventually got help and medication for the depression but that didn’t really fix the underlying issues of addiction she was beginning to have.
“…despite continued daily declarations of not tonight, not tonight, not tonight, the thought came to me. Janelle, maybe you are an alcoholic. If I am, so be it. Because by then, the consequences of not drinking were far greater than anything that could have happened from drinking. Internally, that is, because I drank to repair my inner self. [pg 113]”
This is a gritty, raw, hard to read memoir and Janelle is NOT a likeable character. But she’s a damn fine writer and she describes her addiction to alcohol and cocaine very well.
She has an up and down, tumultuous relationship with her husband; they separate several times, get back together and have kids and she’s sober for 9 months and then back at it. Family tries to help but to no avail. She has a codependent relationship with her husband Mac, who also gets addicted to drugs and alcohol. Eventually she goes to rehab (He does too, for 90 days). Her roommate in rehab is Alice, an older woman who can’t afford to stay for the full month.
“I thought of Alice and how she couldn’t even stay for the whole month [in rehab], and how drugs were the great leveler until it came to outcomes. To treatment. To the world opening itself to help. Nobody cared if Alice lived or died. Nobody would even notice if she were gone. [pg 164]”
It was a sad reflection on addiction services.
“I was living, breathing, thinking and eating recovery. I got stronger. I lost weight. My mind grew clearer while my family delighted in my “progress.” I had a whole army of activities, mental health workers, family, and friends encircling me, blocking me from the siren song of alcohol. [pg 165]”
Like I said, Janelle wasn’t a very likeable person. You wanted her to get her act together and stop being such an asshole to everyone in her life. But she never really got that. In the book she reflects on it and how she’d thought she’d be a better person once she was sober–but nope, she was still an asshole. Just sober.
“Meanwhile, Mac was a beaming light of sobriety, living back at the dome and apprenticing as an ironworker. Without me, he found a new career. My father was still sober and spending more and more time with my children. Everybody seemed to be getting better except me. [pg 171]”
She seemed resentful of everyone in her life.
“In those meetings they told me. ‘One day, alcohol will stop working for you.’…in that trailed I learned it was true. I learned that one day I would grow physically drunk–stumbling, vomiting, slurring my words–but my mind would remain clean, stripped and still starving. The relief alcohol once brought would never return. Like a rat on a wheel, I would frantically chase a drifting memory. [pg 178]”
“[Mac] had not taken a drink since March of 2007. When we would have lunch together, I’d suggest we order Coronas, and he’s say ‘No, thanks. One is too many and a thousand never enough.’ He had found sobriety in those rooms for drunks I knew were full of lies. [pg 183]”
But she eventually finds a friend and sponsor who tells her what she needs to hear to get sober.
“Until then, I had spent my entire adult life drunk, in the aftermath of drunk, in the pursuit of drunk, in the avoidance of drunk, or in the precarious hell of in-between drunk. [pg 198]”
“‘Alcohol was never your problem, it was your solution. If alcohol were the problem,’ he’d say, ‘rehab would be churning out winners. And yet, people like us always drink again. Every relapse starts with a sober grain. So where’s your problem? In sobriety?’ [pg 231]”
This book isn’t for everyone, and might be triggering for some people, but it was a really well-written and candid book about addiction and mental illness. It’s sometimes abrasive, sometimes blunt, but it also makes you look at things in a different way.
5 ) The House of Tides by Hannah Richell
Oh man…this book! I thought maybe it would be “Beach Read” type of family drama but it was definitely heavier than I was expecting. It was SO good, though, definitely read it.
Dora is the youngest daughter of a family that is struggling with a tragedy a decade ago. She lives in London with her fiance and then she discovers she’s pregnant and it brings up a lot of anxiety and fear about becoming a mother because of a tragedy that happened. Her older sister vanished after the tragedy and Dora is estranged from her mother, Helen.
The tragedy is so heart-wrenching it was hard for me to read. It hit too close to home, having a toddler of my own, but the book was SO well written and emotional and compelling. All the characters have depth and deal with their pain in their own way.
It’s the type of book you don’t want to put down. It flashes back and forth between past and present but it’s not confusing. You grow to love each character that shares their point of view of the tragedy. The family is full of secrets and it’s so complex and emotional. Excellent.
6 ) What You Want To See (Roxane Weary #2) by Kristen Lepionka
The second book in the series. I really enjoyed the first book and I like the character Roxane. She’s flawed by strong and interesting. She’s compelling to read and you want to know her in real life.
In this book, she’s hired by a man who wants her to follow his fiance, Marin, because he thinks she’s cheating. But then Marin is shot to death and her future husband, Arthur, is the number one suspect. Roxane knows there’s something off about the case so she keeps digging.
The plot was well thought out and interesting and honestly kept me guessing until the very end. Very good read!
7 ) Love and Gelato by Jenna Evans Welch
This is a YA book. Not usually my thing but it was really good and I liked it a lot. Lina is 16 and her mom dies of pancreatic cancer pretty quickly. She goes to Florence, Italy for the summer to live with the father she never knew she had. This was her mother’s last wish–to experience living in the city that she loved so much as a college student.
She arrives and a friend of her mother’s gives Lina an old journal. She starts to read about her mother’s love affairs in Florence and what resulted in her getting pregnant with Lina. At it’s heart the book is about young love and of course, there is a love story for Lina, too. This was definitely a feel good, romantic, beach-read type book!
Happy Reading!
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