U is for Unattainable


U is for Unattainable 

One of the common themes in emails I get from readers is the concept of weight loss being allusive and an impossible goal. This post is meant to discourage that negative thinking.

A question people often ask, myself included at various times in my journey, is  Why Can’t I Lose Weight? The short answer is that often times we make unrealistic goals for ourselves. According to doctor charts, I should weigh about 125 pounds. My body doesn’t like that and I’ve never seen a weight that low. In fact, I think I would look gaunt and unhealthy if I weighed much less than 140. My body likes the 145-ish range and so I don’t give myself grief about not weighing 125 pounds.

Another reason why weight loss can be unattainable is that the “diet” is vague or there isn’t a PLAN for weight loss. You can’t just say “I will stop eating chips and lose 100 pounds!” Sure, eliminating the junk food from your diet will help, but there are so many other things that factor in. Exercise. Eating a balanced diet. Drinking water instead of soda, etc etc.

For me, focusing on calorie intake and calories burned is what helped me lose 100 pounds. It’s also helped me maintain that loss for almost six years. That worked for me. Maybe the Weight Watchers points system works for you, maybe Paleo or a vegetarian/vegan diet is what your body responds to. Who knows. You gotta try to figure it out–and the negative self-talk discouraging you from even trying is not going to help. Find what works for you and stick to it.

For most of my teen years and early 20’s, I told myself that I would NEVER LOSE WEIGHT. I used words like never and can’t. I couldn’t lose weight. I’d “tried”! Really, I hadn’t tried to lose weight. I never addressed the binge eating food habits that were sabotaging whatever efforts I made in the gym. (Check out this post: We All Start Somewhere for some inspiration.)


If you never REALLY tried, you can’t use the words like never! Give it a fair shot and you might be pleasantly surprised! I sure was when I dropped 10 pounds that first month I started swimming!

Check out some of these old posts if you’re struggling with where to start:

New Year’s Resolutions To Skip

How to Start Losing Weight Now

10 Harsh Realities that Help You Grow

A few years ago I also wrote a series on How To Lose Weight. It was a big task to write about and so I broke it down into a weekly series covering a lot of the issues that come up during a diet change. It takes each topic one by one because baby steps is less overwhelming! Trust me!

How to Lose Weight Series: 

Week OneWeek One Check In

Week Two , Week Two Check In

Week Three

Week Four

Week Five

Five Truths of Weight Loss

Five Truths of Maintenance

Over the years I gave up that drive to try and reach a seriously unattainable number on the scale. Like I stated above, 125 pounds would not be a healthy weight for me. We need fat and we need muscle on our bones. I don’t want to be a skeleton just to achieve some ridiculous goal that isn’t something I can maintain for very long! Perfection is never going to happen, so I try to be happy with where my body is.

My hope with this blog is that the four years I’ve been writing it have inspired readers to try to lose weight. I wanted my readers to see that it WAS possible to lose weight and it was possible to keep it off too! I wanted to be an open book for everyone to see that you can eat “fun” foods and enjoy life without gaining all the weight back. Losing weight doesn’t have to make you miserable or deny you the foods you want to eat. Moderating all of that stuff is really what works in the long run.

I hope that this blog has shown you all that weight loss is ATTAINABLE.

Have you stopped the negative self-talk regarding weight loss? 

A-Abstinence * B-Balance * C-Calories * D-Vitamin D * E-Emergency * F-Fast Food and Fine Dining * G-Gym Bag * H-Happy Weight * I-Intervals * J-Jumping * K-Keeping Sane * L-Losing Weight * M-Measuring Mistakes *N-Nemesis * O-Open * P-Plateaus Q -Quitting * R-Runner’s Knee * S-Support * T-Truth *