Feb 012016
 

You know what you really want when you’re 8 months pregnant and getting the nesting urge? For a major appliance to break. On a weekend, of course, when no one is available to come out and take a look at it for four days…

Yep, our fridge broke recently. Woke up one morning to nothing really cold in the fridge and things in the freezer being “sort of” frozen…Luckily we have a second fridge/freezer in the garage that was used solely for giant jars of pickled jalapenos, beer and then frozen meat from Costco. It was Michael’s mom’s old fridge and we happily took it a few years ago. So I moved all the food into that fridge (which is small) in order to save it.

The upside? It was a good opportunity to clean out mysterious things in the freezer!

The repair guy came out. Michael and I had agreed that if it cost under $500 to fix, we’d fix it, if not we were buying a new fridge. Yeah…..$800+ to fix it?? Not happening! To be fair, our fridge was 20 years old. So fridge shopping it was!

While it’s been inconvenient and a pain in the butt, I’m glad it didn’t happen a month from now when I’m about to give birth. But still, not great timing Universe! We went out for dinner at a local Mexican restaurant:

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And then we went to Sears, because the repair guy gave us a coupon for a new fridge. I can’t say I’m happy with how it went at Sears. The guy helping us was kind of a tool and when I asked if there were any downsides to the fridge we were considering he went into a super long spiel about the Sears extended warranty stuff. I get it dude, you probably work on commission, but that’s not what I asked and stop trying to pressure sell us on your dumb warranty. Telling me fridges aren’t built to last more than 5-8 years these days so I should buy your dumb warranty that is 50% of what the fridge costs, is not making me want to buy your fridge. We NEVER had that obnoxious up-selling at Lowe’s when we bought our new dishwasher there. Plus he kept trying to convince us that the double door/french door style of fridge was best–which I repeatedly said I didn’t want. Why aren’t you listening to your customers??

It was 8:30 at night, I was tired after a really long day, having Braxton-Hicks contractions that were really uncomfortable and I was over the salesguy’s attitude. We kept saying no thanks, he wasn’t listening and kept trying to sell us this extended warranty and then trying to convince us to sign up for some Sears monthly payment plan or credit card to pay for the warranty. DUDE! Knock it off. I almost said, “we have the money to pay for the warranty, we just don’t WANT IT.” I finally said to Michael right in front of him, “If this is going to be an issue, let’s just go to Lowe’s.” Funny how the guy shut the eff up right then!

We bought the fridge and it was on a great sale, like $870 off regular price, plus the $100 off coupon. We’re both happy with the selection we made. It was the style we wanted, it was the right size for the space and layout of our kitchen and I think we made the right decision–even if Sears made me never want to buy something from them again…

Our new fridge:

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The fridge is really nice and there’s so much space inside! It’s about an inch taller, wider and deeper than our old fridge and that makes a slight difference even though it doesn’t sound like much. It’s good and it fits, but it feels slightly overpowering in the space. Or maybe it just takes some getting used to.

Moving on!

Life has been CRAZYYYYY lately. If you saw my schedule you’d probably cry a little bit. I’ve been feeling way over-scheduled and overwhelmed and stressed. Between full time work, trying to fit in the gym, trying to stay on top of chores and crap around the house, doctor appointments, trying to finish the nursery, weekly childbirth classes and now trying to fit in daycare tours (which is stressful enough on its own)…I have zero downtime. It’s my fault. I procrastinated on a lot of things (like the daycare tours, which now means we’re getting on waitlists). And then of course things have popped up that we didn’t plan for (like the fridge). [picture me screaming into a pillow right now!!!!]

But…I have been doing some FUN things, too. I’ve been trying to schedule things with friends because I know stuff like that will fall off the priority list once the little guy is here.

  • Michael and I had a lunch date at Ohana Hawaiian Cafe with our friends Sam and John. I got the teriyaki chicken platter, which was fabulous!
  • I met up with my friend Star who recently moved in with her boyfriend (which is fantastic!!). We hung out and drank tea and chatted for a few hours. It was nice to just sit back and catch up. It also came on a day when I was feeling particularly overwhelmed and needed that time.
  • I met my friend Robyn at Pho Van for lunch.

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And then last night we went to Michael’s mom’s house for my birthday dinner. She asked what I wanted and I said mashed potatoes. She makes perfect garlic mashed potatoes and I’ve been craving that. So she made a delicious pot roast to go with it. Dinner was fabulous.

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Dessert was peppermint ice cream (also my favorite). And I got some new running shoes!

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Don’t those look fabulous? I cannot wait to get back into running. I’ve really, really missed it.

I apologize now that the next few posts will be kind of baby-centric. I have a post about the nursery coming up and I have my baby shower this weekend. :)

What’s going on in your life lately?

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Jan 272016
 

“When the will is ready the feet are light.” 
–  Proverb

When I was trying to lose 100 pounds, or when I had lost the weight and was trying to keep it off, I can’t tell you how many times someone told me “I just don’t have the willpower that you do.” There was something negative about that statement to me. Not just the negative self-talk where the person was saying “I Can’t” without even trying, but also the implication that willpower is something you have to struggle for.

What is the difference between dedication and willpower?

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Recently Michael gave me a compliment about my pregnancy. He said he admired my “dedication.” He said he was impressed with how dedicated I have been at eating well for me and the baby, still working out, not slacking on my gym schedule (but also taking days here and there when I did need rest). My comment was that overall I was really happy with my pregnancy and I felt like I had done things “right” for ME. My diet didn’t change all that much, just ate a little bit more. The one thing I regretted was not cutting out the sugar. I voiced my concern about giving my kid a sweet tooth before he’s even here…but I just didn’t have the willpower to completely cut out sugar from diet.

Again, that word. Willpower. It feels so negative. “I didn’t have the willpower to cut out sugar” = I am weak and dependent and addicted to sugar. That’s what I think when I hear myself saying that. Then I feel deflated and think, why am I so weak? Why CAN’T I cut out sugar from diet entirely?? What’s wrong with me.

“Using willpower is exhausting: I had to put myself in the mindset of “I’m gonna do this.” Which is a hard mindset to get into. But now that it’s a habit, it feels natural. I don’t use any willpower on it, and I have willpower leftover for dealing with other occurrences and forming more habits. I’m less exhausted when I use less willpower and rely on habits I’ve built instead. Who doesn’t want to be less exhausted? (source)”

It really is. The concept of willpower is overwhelming and exhausting and feels unattainable. It feels very “all or nothing” to me. Sure, when I was trying to lose 100 pounds I did have an all or nothing attitude about my diet because I had to. I was trying to overcome my food addictions that had lead me to weigh over 250 pounds. I couldn’t eat trigger foods (pizza, ice cream, candy) at ALL because once I started, I couldn’t stop. BUT once some time had passed and I had focus and dedication and was seeing results…it was a lot easier to make exceptions once in awhile because I COULD control it. I knew that having some pizza would not mean I’d eat the entire thing. I had formed a new habit and I was dedicated to my new lifestyle. THAT made it easy.

Some tips:

Stop making excuses – saying “I don’t have the willpower” is a cop-out. Sorry, but it is. Okay, so maybe you don’t have the willpower to try something different in order to lose weight, but do you have the dedication to yourself to at least try? Dedication sounds so much more positive to me.

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Make it a habit – Instead of looking at weight loss goals as a willpower thing (or lack of willpower thing) I found it easier to think of losing weight as a good habit I was forming. Exercise is part of my routine now. It’s a habit. It’s scheduled on my calendar like everything else in my life and I don’t even think about it. That makes it easy. “Oh, it’s Tuesday– a gym day.” Just like going to work Monday through Friday, or doing grocery shopping every Sunday…whatever it is, it’s part of my routine and schedule now and it’s so much easier just doing it then NOT doing it.

Check in with your goal – I liked to have a spreadsheet with my weekly weigh ins when I was losing weight. It was a visual thing for me, I could track it and see patterns and it was nice seeing those numbers go down.

Make sure that goal is realistic – setting out to lose 100 pounds in 6 months is just setting yourself up for failure. Trust me. You’ll feel overwhelmed and desperate and honestly, losing that much weight in such a short time isn’t the healthiest thing either. Making smaller goals not only gets you to the finish line in  a healthy way but it also gives you something to celebrate when you reach each landmark. Maybe once you lose 25 you get a pedicure, when you lose 50 you buy yourself some new clothes. Whatever it is that helps you stay focused on the end game will make it easier to make small sacrifices when times are tough and you REALLY really want to eat five donuts. 😉

Five Truths of Weight Loss

Psychology of Weight Loss

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.”
–  Henry Ford

And of course, even doing some of those things above, you’ll stall out. Plateaus happen. We get discouraged. We stop seeing results. Then it’s time to change things up. Maybe running at the same speed and incline on the treadmill week in and week out isn’t getting you the same results. So try intervals. Run outside. Try something else to shake things up.

Why Can’t I Lose Weight?

Break Your Bad Workout Habits

Married to My Workout

Weight Loss Plateaus

How to Stay Motivated

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I feel like taking “willpower” out of the equation alleviates some of the pressure. Instead of feeling like one slip-up means absolute failure, changing your thinking to “I am dedicated to losing this weight and tomorrow is a new day to try again” makes us more likely to be successful in reaching that goal. None of us are perfect. There will be slip-ups. But they don’t have to send us back to the starting line every single time.

So be dedicated to your goal. Dedicated to yourself. Ditch the willpower and focus on being determined instead.

What do you think? Is willpower an easy concept for you? Or does something else help keep you motivated to lose weight?

 

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