Don’t you hate those “I feel fat” days? I know I’m not fat. I know I didn’t gain 50 pounds overnight. And yet….
Where did this mentality of “I feel fat” come from and become socially acceptable? Have you ever noticed that when you get together with your girlfriends, the conversation often drifts to “I feel fat” or “I need to lose some weight”? Isn’t the phrase “I feel fat” just a veiled “I don’t like myself or my body” statement?
For years my mom harped on me about something called negative self-talk. It was kind of abstract for me when I was a teenager and it really didn’t resonate with me. Her telling me to stop the negative self-talk didn’t DO anything, I didn’t change my thinking.
Fake It Til You Make It
When I was slowly (sometimes painfully so) losing my weight, I was grasping at straws to stay positive. I knew that if I let that negative voice creep into my mind, I’d go off the rails and return to my old habits. For me, food was an emotional crutch. This time around, I did not want to fail. I had a goal I wanted to reach, losing weight was a necessity, failing was NOT an option. So what did I do? I faked it til I made it. I told myself I was happy, I WOULD lose the weight, I WOULD reach goal, I would not fail. Even if I didn’t really believe it yet, I told myself those things and eventually I did start to believe them!
The “I feel fat” voice in my head was slowly disappearing. It was being replaced with the “Oh my god, I lost more weight!” voice that made me feel happy and encouraged.
For the first time, I understood what my mom meant about negative self-talk. For so many years I’d been telling myself I would always be fat, I couldn’t lose weight, etc etc and that kept me from even TRYING. Why try? I already knew I was going to fail at it! But was that the truth? Was that the voice I should be listening to? No.
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” -Barack Obama
It’s kind of a “If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got” notion. So why aren’t we trying?
Fat Is Not A Feeling
Recently I had a return of the “I feel fat” feelings. I stopped and asked myself: What am I REALLY feeling? I was feeling stressed. I was feeling overwhelmed. I was feeling tired. I was feeling guilty for eating too much Halloween candy.
Final thoughts: Wear clothing that makes you feel good (too baggy isn’t good, or too tight either!). Keep doing what works, stop doing what doesn’t. Change the behavior, change the negative voice. Fake it til you make it. I needed that reminder recently!
QUESTION: What’s your take on this?