Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving!

We went to Wilsonville after breakfast to check out the Coyote Way and Tonquin Trail Loop

It was in a nature preserve and part of the park you could bring your dog, and there were some trails that there were no dogs. It was a little foggy and chilly so we bundled up.

It was a nice little walk. The place had a lot of families walking and some people running their “turkey trot”. Most people wore masks. The trails were wide enough, though, so that was nice.

Logan got some much needed energy out. Of course, his new thing is we get as far from the trailhead/car as possible and then he doesn’t want to walk anymore. Then it’s a battle with lots of coaxing…making it a game, trying to see if he can race daddy back to the car, etc etc. So anyways, we only did about 1.5 miles total then headed home.

We definitely want to come back. Next time we’ll leave Bella at home so we can check out the other trails.

We got home and Logan had a bath and I went for a short, 2 mile, run in the neighborhood before cleaning up, having a small lunch and taking a nap with Logan. It was pretty chill, which was nice!

Michael started cooking. He made his famous Mac n’ Cheese, started the chicken to smoke it. Logan and I made dinner rolls and I did the Brussels Sprouts.

The smoked chicken turned out great! And we have some leftovers for about two days worth of meals. Not a ton of leftovers, which is good since it’s just us. Of course the mac n’cheese was amazing.

Something Logan’s preschool does is the “no thank you bite”. I had no idea what he was talking about until he explained it. LOL So he had a no thank you bite (taking one bite and saying no thank you) of the chicken and the mac n’ cheese (sacrilegious) so he got some of his regular Annie’s Mac N’ Cheese instead (so many eye rolls kid!!!). Carrots, applesauce, roll. Basic toddler dinner lol.

Our dinner, however, was fantastic! We ate a little too much, but not so much we feel sick. 😉

Then pie. 😀

Friday Michael had to work. I worked out in our basement after breakfast and then Logan and I went to the “beach” near our house for exploring!

It was very cold, very foggy, but super fun! We were basically the only ones there. We did some exploring, some rock throwing, some walking and saw this:

Logan was very concerned about sharks in the river (lol) and asked if the shark ate the fish.

It was a fun little break from the monotony.

Books #56

Reading in 2020 has been a struggle, for sure. Pre-pandemic, I read so much! I’d read on the bus to and from work. I’d read on the elliptical during my lunch break at work. I’d read on my breaks at work…then of course, every night at bedtime. But now, while I have the time, I just don’t read other than at bedtime. And I do not feel overly motivated to find time in my day to do it. I don’t know why (other than a general feeling of being burned out).

Despite that, I am reading some good books lately. Here are a few:

1 – Rage Against the Minivan by Kristen Howerton

I absolutely loved this book!

I heard an interview of the author on a podcast, talking about adoption and what it was like raising black boys in today’s world. She touches on that a little bit in this book. But this book is more about her life as a mother, the multiple miscarriages she went through, the horrific and traumatic processes of adoption (one was in Haiti and took 3 years and an earthquake for her to finally bring her son home).

She opened up about her struggles with anxiety, depression, struggling with balancing work and home life, how to do everything and raise 4 kids. How her marriage suffered and ended. The book was revealing and raw and I think a lot of mothers can relate to at least one thing in this book. She wrote about being lonely and not having many friends, especially when they left their church because she disagreed with their stances on racism, LGBTQ rights, etc.

The book was also hilarious. I laughed out loud too many times to count. I could relate to so much.

“They turned up their noses at vegetables or any kind of sauce, requesting instead the Bland Beige Food Group. They were uninterested in quiet family meals. Our table felt more like the breakfast scene from Cheaper by the Dozen than something painted by Norman Rockwell.”

“I was an amazing mother before I had kids. I had it all planned out. There were meadows involved. There would be handmade wooden toys and organic, home-cooked meals. There would be picnics on hippie-inspired blankets (in the meadows) and vintage books and lazy days at the park (more meadows).” (I had the same vision!)

Instead of the bliss she said it was:

“I felt tired and frazzled. I no longer recognized the body I inhabited. I didn’t have time for things like hair appointments or workouts. Or showers. Going shopping for food felt like an insurmountable challenge, and I may have once started crying in public when there were no double carts left at the grocery store. It hardly felt like living. I was surviving.”

I highly recommend this book. It was so funny, real and relatable.

2 – Baby Catcher: Chronicles of a Modern Midwife by Peggy Vincent

I enjoyed this book a lot. I’ve known a few midwives and they are all cool, calm and collected. It was fun reading about the early days of “modern” midwifery.

Peggy was a new OB nurse in the 1970’s in Berkeley. She didn’t agree with the way the male doctors treated labor and decided to become a midwife and go off on her own.

“Midwives believe birth is normal till proven otherwise. Doctors don’t.”

She got the training, kind of became a bit of a hippie (Birkenstocks and all) and started her own midwife practice. Each chapter was a short story about a woman’s birth that she attended. They were all different and interesting. There were a few that I felt like they could have left out of the book, but the majority were great stories.

“Just think about it. As midwives, we meet wildly interesting people and stay up all night with them. We ask them questions about their sex lives, eat their food, feel inside their bodies, snoop around their houses, drink champagne at all hours, and best of all, we get to catch delicious little naked, wet babies. What I can’t figure out is, why doesn’t everyone want to be a midwife?”

Toward the end of the book, Peggy had the unfortunate experience of a birth gone wrong. She’d warned the woman that she should birth at the hospital because of certain things, the woman refused, and then called Peggy to her home when she was in labor. Peggy arrived and saw immediately there was an issue. The ambulance service and EMTs bungled things. They got to the hospital. The doctor chose to do a C-Section and the baby had major issues. The woman ended up suing everyone involved for “wrongful life”. This might have been one of the first cases.

It was a sad way to kind of end the book because Peggy ended up losing her midwife insurance as a result (the doctor did NOT lose his malpractice insurance) and she went back to shift work at a Kaiser OB unit (she called it a Ford Assembly Line of birth). It was a bit of a bummer. 🙁

But overall I loved the book and the stories and the connections Peggy made with the women and their babies.

3 – The New Wilderness by Diane Cook

This was a very interesting book. It was a different kind of dystopian world. In this one, The City is toxic. It’s overcrowded. People are getting sick and dying just from living in the city. Bea is desperate to safe her young daughter, Agnes, from a untimely death. So she, Agnes and her husband, go to the “New Wilderness.” It’s outside of the city, completely untouched wilderness, and they are supposed to live a nomadic life, one with nature.

There’s a group of them. There are rules. There are Rangers that track them, check in with them to make sure they are following the rules. They live off the land, hunt animals. They aren’t allowed to build permanent structures or stay in one place for very long because it will do damage to the environment.

These people live a “pure” life here. It seems to be going well. Years go by. People in their group die. Eventually they get some new people added to their “tribe.”

It’s a fascinating concept. It was a little Hunger Games, a little Lord of the Flies. It’s worth a read just for the interesting concept.

4 – Our Time is Now by Stacey Abrams

Very very good. So informative, lots of history and very very current events. The afterword even talks about Covid-19. I appreciated her service and description of politics in Georgia, about gerrymandering, about the despicable things the GOP has done to suppress votes for so many people in America. She had some good types on how to get involved. I appreciated the book very much and was happy to support someone who has done so much for the democratic system.

5 – The White Queen by Phillipa Gregory

I recently watched this series: The White Queen, The White Princess and season 1 of the Spanish Princess and they were so good! I used to read Phillipa Gregory a long time ago but it’s been awhile. I am so glad I picked up this book because it’s very good. It is a super fast read, covers a lot of history in an engaging way and I highly recommend it!

6 – Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman

I heard about this book on a podcast interview with one of the authors. It was a very interesting concept. There are so many books written about romantic relationships but rarely about friendships. Friendships play such a big part of our lives, but we don’t always put the “work” in like we would with romantic relationships. The story of the two authors, their friendship, the rocky times, how they worked to fix things, were all very interesting to read. It was part memoir style, peppered with research on friendships, etc but it never felt bogged down with quotes/facts/research.

The book also talked about race and feminism, among other topics. It gave me a lot to think about and I enjoyed reading the book.

Happy Reading!

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