weight loss goals

Dedication vs. Willpower

“When the will is ready the feet are light.” 
–  Proverb

When I was trying to lose 100 pounds, or when I had lost the weight and was trying to keep it off, I can’t tell you how many times someone told me “I just don’t have the willpower that you do.” There was something negative about that statement to me. Not just the negative self-talk where the person was saying “I Can’t” without even trying, but also the implication that willpower is something you have to struggle for.

What is the difference between dedication and willpower?

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Recently Michael gave me a compliment about my pregnancy. He said he admired my “dedication.” He said he was impressed with how dedicated I have been at eating well for me and the baby, still working out, not slacking on my gym schedule (but also taking days here and there when I did need rest). My comment was that overall I was really happy with my pregnancy and I felt like I had done things “right” for ME. My diet didn’t change all that much, just ate a little bit more. The one thing I regretted was not cutting out the sugar. I voiced my concern about giving my kid a sweet tooth before he’s even here…but I just didn’t have the willpower to completely cut out sugar from diet.

Again, that word. Willpower. It feels so negative. “I didn’t have the willpower to cut out sugar” = I am weak and dependent and addicted to sugar. That’s what I think when I hear myself saying that. Then I feel deflated and think, why am I so weak? Why CAN’T I cut out sugar from diet entirely?? What’s wrong with me.

“Using willpower is exhausting: I had to put myself in the mindset of “I’m gonna do this.” Which is a hard mindset to get into. But now that it’s a habit, it feels natural. I don’t use any willpower on it, and I have willpower leftover for dealing with other occurrences and forming more habits. I’m less exhausted when I use less willpower and rely on habits I’ve built instead. Who doesn’t want to be less exhausted? (source)”

It really is. The concept of willpower is overwhelming and exhausting and feels unattainable. It feels very “all or nothing” to me. Sure, when I was trying to lose 100 pounds I did have an all or nothing attitude about my diet because I had to. I was trying to overcome my food addictions that had lead me to weigh over 250 pounds. I couldn’t eat trigger foods (pizza, ice cream, candy) at ALL because once I started, I couldn’t stop. BUT once some time had passed and I had focus and dedication and was seeing results…it was a lot easier to make exceptions once in awhile because I COULD control it. I knew that having some pizza would not mean I’d eat the entire thing. I had formed a new habit and I was dedicated to my new lifestyle. THAT made it easy.

Some tips:

Stop making excuses – saying “I don’t have the willpower” is a cop-out. Sorry, but it is. Okay, so maybe you don’t have the willpower to try something different in order to lose weight, but do you have the dedication to yourself to at least try? Dedication sounds so much more positive to me.

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Make it a habit – Instead of looking at weight loss goals as a willpower thing (or lack of willpower thing) I found it easier to think of losing weight as a good habit I was forming. Exercise is part of my routine now. It’s a habit. It’s scheduled on my calendar like everything else in my life and I don’t even think about it. That makes it easy. “Oh, it’s Tuesday– a gym day.” Just like going to work Monday through Friday, or doing grocery shopping every Sunday…whatever it is, it’s part of my routine and schedule now and it’s so much easier just doing it then NOT doing it.

Check in with your goal – I liked to have a spreadsheet with my weekly weigh ins when I was losing weight. It was a visual thing for me, I could track it and see patterns and it was nice seeing those numbers go down.

Make sure that goal is realistic – setting out to lose 100 pounds in 6 months is just setting yourself up for failure. Trust me. You’ll feel overwhelmed and desperate and honestly, losing that much weight in such a short time isn’t the healthiest thing either. Making smaller goals not only gets you to the finish line in  a healthy way but it also gives you something to celebrate when you reach each landmark. Maybe once you lose 25 you get a pedicure, when you lose 50 you buy yourself some new clothes. Whatever it is that helps you stay focused on the end game will make it easier to make small sacrifices when times are tough and you REALLY really want to eat five donuts. 😉

Five Truths of Weight Loss

Psychology of Weight Loss

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.”
–  Henry Ford

And of course, even doing some of those things above, you’ll stall out. Plateaus happen. We get discouraged. We stop seeing results. Then it’s time to change things up. Maybe running at the same speed and incline on the treadmill week in and week out isn’t getting you the same results. So try intervals. Run outside. Try something else to shake things up.

Why Can’t I Lose Weight?

Break Your Bad Workout Habits

Married to My Workout

Weight Loss Plateaus

How to Stay Motivated

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I feel like taking “willpower” out of the equation alleviates some of the pressure. Instead of feeling like one slip-up means absolute failure, changing your thinking to “I am dedicated to losing this weight and tomorrow is a new day to try again” makes us more likely to be successful in reaching that goal. None of us are perfect. There will be slip-ups. But they don’t have to send us back to the starting line every single time.

So be dedicated to your goal. Dedicated to yourself. Ditch the willpower and focus on being determined instead.

What do you think? Is willpower an easy concept for you? Or does something else help keep you motivated to lose weight?

 

Reducing My Calories – Part 3

Here is Part 3 of the series. It’s for last week (the week before I went on vacation) so my hope is that I make some progress before I leave and that I don’t do too much damage while on vacation!

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Day One

Breakfast: Cereal with milk, toast, unsweetened iced tea and coffee with creamer. Calories: 359

Snack: Blueberries. Calories: 83

Lunch: Homemade tuna salad (with curry powder and lite craisins) with celery and baby carrots. Small piece of chocolate. Calories: 261

Snack: Whey chocolate protein shake. Calories: 100 

Dinner: Baked tilapia with Brussels Sprouts and quinoa. Calories: 430

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Dessert: 2 small Butterfinger minis and half a glass of milk. Calories: 151

Fitness: It was a rest day but I did a lot of walking!

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Day Two

Breakfast: 2 fried eggs, English muffin with cinnamon and splenda, unsweetened iced tea and coffee with creamer. Calories: 338

Snack: Green grapes. Calories: 92

Lunch: I made 2 ham wraps with Swiss cheese, a little mayo and mustard, kale and spinach and then guacamole with celery and carrots. I kind of loved this lunch! It was delicious and low calories and very filling. 1 piece of chocolate. Calories: 334

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Snack: Pre-swim snack of plain Greek yogurt with fresh blueberries: Calories: 111

Dinner: Quinoa, Brussels sprouts and Trader Joe’s Chicken Shu Mai with some sriracha. I was SO hungry after swimming and needed something fast. Calories: 480

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Dessert: Half a glass of milk and 2 mini Butterfinger bars. Calories: 158

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It was a really decent day.

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Breakfast: 2 fried eggs, piece of toast with some jelly (my homemade jalapeno jelly), unsweetened iced tea, coffee with creamer. Calories: 345

Snack: Green grapes. Calories: 92

Lunch: Homemade tuna salad with sliced cucumber and a Laughing Cow cheese wedge. This lunch was not quite filling enough for me. Calories: 261

Snack: Plain Greek yogurt with blueberries. Calories: 111

Dinner: I was really craving a grilled cheese sandwich so that’s what I had! I made a salad with kale and Swiss chard and spinach with a piece of bacon crumbled, cucumber, tomatoes and Caesar dressing. Calories: 509

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Dessert: Fun size Butterfinger and glass of milk. Calories: 240

Exercise: Did a walk during my lunch break and then went to the gym where I did some weight lifting and the elliptical. My back was really cranky at the gym so I quit early.

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It was an ok day. Could have done better.

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Breakfast: Rice Krispie cereal with milk, piece of toast with jalapeno jelly, unsweetened iced tea and coffee with creamer. Calories: 396

Snack: Green grapes. Calories: 92

Lunch: Back with my new favorite lunch! The ham and cheese roll up with spinach and guacamole and cucumber slices. Calories: 290

Dinner: Quinoa, bratwurst, steamed broccoli with Goddess dressing and sauteed onions. It was a kind of “throw everything together” kind of dinner. Calories: 570

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Exercise: Just walking, it was a rest day.

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I went over my calories for the day and I was disappointed but there was a small victory–I really wanted a glass of wine with dinner but I refrained. It was either have quinoa with dinner or the glass of wine but not both and I made the decision to eat instead. Aw well, I was still a little over for the day but it wasn’t too bad.

Day-5

Breakfast: Chocolate Whey protein shake on the way to the airport! I see a bagel or sandwich and coffee in my future.

 

I have some ideas for meals and snacks for when I get home from vacation. I think they will be helpful. Question for you readers: is this of interest to you guys? I don’t usually post food diary type posts and only intended on doing this for a few weeks but as I make progress I think I will continue what I’m doing. Do you guys want some more food diary type posts? Maybe not weekly but on a semi regular basis?