A few weeks ago I came across a post called “25 ways losing weight will not change your life.” Go ahead and check out the list. The author claims that losing weight will NOT:
- change your life
- destroy your insecurities
- result in better health
- make you love yourself
And so on. You get the idea. My intent in this post is not to be a jerk towards that author. I don’t know them. I don’t know their story. They don’t know my story. But I was honestly really turned off by the whole thing. I disagreed with a lot of the things on the list.
If your problems are high blood pressure, diabetes, high cholesterol, heart problems, stress, depression…YES losing weight will most likely solve those problems. They did for me. A friend of mine has lost weight and she’s cut her diabetes medication in half. It does improve your health in so many ways.
I was so unhealthy at 250 pounds. Sad, depressed, unhealthy, lethargic. My quality of life was not good.
I hate to sound like a soap-box preacher but losing 100 pounds changed my life in so many ways–all of them positive. This is why I disagree with that list. Losing weight DID change my life. If I hadn’t –would I be on the cover of a magazine?? NO!
If I hadn’t lost weight I never ever would have found a love for fitness. A love of running, a renewed passion for swimming, hiking and a new love of cycling.
Who knows if I would have met Michael? I’m sure my life would be a lot different now if I hadn’t lost weight. I had very low self-esteem when I was obese. I didn’t love myself, so why would anyone else love me? I dated a string of loser guys that didn’t treat me very well and I thought that was the “best” I could find. Sad, I know, but really common.
When I lost weight and got healthy in mind and body I realized that I was worthy of everything I wanted out of life. That included positive, healthy partners who valued me as I VALUED MYSELF. I dated a few more jerks in my journey but my patience was growing thin.
Michael has repeatedly told me that one of the most attractive things about me is that I am a “do-er.” I do things. If I want something, I get it. I try hard, I am focused and determined and strong willed (he calls it stubborn). That’s attractive in a person. And I wasn’t like that at 250. I was kind of a whiner at 250. I said “I can never lose weight” and “I’ll always be fat.” I also said “I’ve tried everything–nothing works.”
I’m lucky I found someone who sees past what I “used” to be. A lot of guys would be turned off to the fact that I used to be fat. Thankfully Michael is not shallow like that. Plus we’ve grown to love fitness together.
This is not to say that I was a bad person at 250. Or that my readers are somehow not valued because they aren’t “skinny.” That’s absurd. I am not a fat-hater. I didn’t hate myself as a fat person. I do not hate overweight people. I think that article confused the two. Feeling like your life will improve with good health is NOT hating your fat self. I just don’t see that. How is trying to better yourself a bad thing?
Maybe I am an anomaly. Maybe most people who lose a lot of weight DON’T feel different and don’t feel like they are a different person. But I do. I feel completely different and I am happy.
Losing weight I found myself.
I found a self-worth that had been hiding within my fat.
I found happiness. I found health.
It DID change my life.
QUESTION: Do you agree or disagree? Did getting healthy change your life in any way?