Is Being A Bad Cook A Relationship Dealbreaker?
I saw this headline come through my RSS feed and had to read the article. It was the most ridiculous thing I’ve read in a long time. Why would something like that be a deal breaker in a relationship? To me, deal breakers are things like “he does drugs, he smokes, we have very different views on religion and politics” etc…But cooking?
So putting aside my annoyance at the chauvinism and stereotypes, the topic made me wonder about cooking and relationships. (You can read the article here but there’s not much substance to it.)
If you are in a committed relationship, who does the cooking? Do you share? Do you guys split the duties?
I never liked cooking. I never learned as a kid. My mom isn’t the best cook, although she can bake really well (which is what I can do too). Hmmm, if cooking was a deal breaker my parents never would have gotten together! When I moved out on my own I cooked most of the my foods from a box. I preferred those “helper” meals. It was easy and almost fool-proof for a non-cooker like me.
I always liked baking and was really good at it. I could create recipes on my own when it comes to desserts (which is not the norm for me because I’m a recipe follower). But when it came time to lose the weight I stopped baking. I wasn’t cooking either–just nuking Lean Cuisines in the microwave and making a salad.
Michael is most definitely the cook in our relationship. Not only is he better at it, he enjoys it. He loves cooking. He’s good at “winging it” and I’m totally comfortable with being the one who preps everything and then cleans up afterward. It works well for us. He dislikes cleaning the kitchen and I’d rather clean than cook.
That’s not to say that I never cook. In the last year I’ve been doing a lot of cooking, recipe experimenting and trying things on my own in the kitchen. And surprisingly more often than not they are successful! What I love best about this experimenting is that it’s fun and I feel like I’ve accomplished something when dinner turns out okay. Earlier this year I even cooked a four course dinner for Michael’s birthday! That was a huge challenge for me but it was also so much fun!
I’ve been spreading my wings in the kitchen lately and I like it. AND I’ve been lucky to have a partner who supports most of my wacky kitchen ideas…and will eat the food even if it’s not a home run. 🙂
So now I’m asking you guys….what’s your relationship dynamic? Who cooks? Who cleans? How do you make it work?