The recent #fitblog Twitter chat was an interesting topic. I think dating while trying to lose weight can be a challenge for anyone. Dating often means eating out–restaurants, happy hour, romantic evenings, delicious desserts because you don’t want the date to end…It’s easy to pack on the pounds when you’re in love.
When I started to lose my 100 pounds I was recently single. I had free time, no distractions and the motivation to lose the weight. I dated a few guys during the 2 years it took to lose the weight but I never let that distract me from my ultimate goal: losing the weight.
Not all of the guys I dated were supportive. In fact, one in particular did everything he could to sabotage my efforts. He did not remain in my life for long. Thankfully. When I met Michael I was fairly close to my goal weight. I had about 20 pounds to go I think. He has always been supportive of my efforts to lose weight. Not everyone joined me in my journey. I’m glad Michael did.
Q1) How important is it for you to date/marry someone interested in being fit?
It is extremely important to me that I am with someone who is interested in health and fitness. My life is a lot different now than it was at 250 pounds. I grew to love fitness and eating healthy. I cannot imagine going back to the old ways.
I want my partner to live a long and healthy life with me. That means staying fit, exercising and eating healthy.
Q2) How do you balance staying fit, blogging, work/school and DATING?
I have a workout schedule that’s built into my life just like work is. It’s on my Google Calendar and Michael is cool with the schedule. A few nights a week I go to the gym after work and then we eat dinner together when I get home. On the weekends when I head to the pool he’s usually watching sports on TV anyways so it’s not a big deal.
Michael and I eat most of our dinners together, we eat breakfast together. We make plans together like Date Nights. As for blogging–it take a back seat to my actual life. If I don’t have time for it, I don’t stress it.
Q3) Did you or when did you tell the person you were dating you had a blog?
I was already dating Michael when I started this blog. He has helped me tremendously with some of the technical issues I’ve had. I really appreciate how understanding he is on the topic of the blog. In the beginning I didn’t take photos of Michael for the blog and I tried to limit the personal things I shared. Now I am more open about things. I’d ask Michael before posting personal things out of respect to him and his anonymity. He’s become more relaxed about those things.
In terms of balancing the blog, I do it on my own time. The only time the blog really “interferes” with our lives is when I take pictures of the food before we eat it. I think that annoys Michael sometimes. Especially when he’s hungry!
Q4) Do you like working out with your significant other? Or do you like to keep working out and relationships separate?
Yes! I love sharing my fitness with the love of my life. It means a lot to me that we can do things together to stay healthy. Michael got me into cycling, which I have grown to love. One of my favorite things to do with Michael is biking in events like the Portland Century. We also hike together and go snowshoeing in the winter. It means so much to me to have fitness in common with my boyfriend. It’s honestly a deal breaker. I don’t think I’d be with someone that just wanted to sit on the couch all the time. That’s not my life anymore.
The gym is “me time.” Michael does not want to join a gym. In the beginning of our relationship I had hoped he would want to join the gym and we’d work out together but it’s not for him. He’d much rather workout at home or on the bike. And that’s okay. It’s good to have something separate that’s just MINE. I love my gym time!
It’s About Priorities
My priorities in life are my partner, my animals and my health. It’s all about balance. My life is not all about working out or counting calories. I still have fun. I eat treats, I go wine tasting, I love trying new restaurants with my boyfriend. Without doing too much damage to my waistline….!
QUESTION: How would you answer these questions?