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Gaining Weight in Relationships

Gaining Weight in Relationships

Lisa Eirene

About Lisa Eirene Lisa lost 110 pounds through calorie counting and exercise. She swims, bikes, runs, hikes and is enjoying life in Portland, Oregon. Her weight loss story has been featured in First Magazine, Yahoo Health, Woman's Day and Glamour.com.

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16 Comments

  1. jaki williams

    this is a serious problem in my relationship. weve both gained weight. read your tips and immediately messaged the bf. thank you!

    1. Lisa Eirene

      Thanks for commenting Jaki! It can be a stressful thing in relationship when you feel like your partner isn’t supporting your weight loss. Just be honest!

  2. Lesley Lifting Life

    Those are great tips!! Thankfully, upon getting married my husband was the “healthy eater” of the relationship. Slowly, he persuaded me to be more like him, and I learned I actually loved eating healthier!

    1. Lisa Eirene

      That’s really cool. Were you kicking and screaming or did you go willingly? šŸ˜‰

  3. blackhuff

    I did gain weight when it was just the two of us but the time in my life where I gained the most weight, was when I became a parent. Then one don’t have the time (or so I thought) to exercise and eat right.

    1. Lisa Eirene

      How do you change that now that you made the realization that you do have time?

  4. steena

    I think when I first started dating my husband I did fall into the weight gain trap, but I also just turned 21, so there was a lot more than him to blame!
    But, I’m fortunate enough that my husband rocks and he doesn’t bring too much garbage into the house. He gets me. He knows he can’t buy a package of cookies and leave it in the cubbard. We do a lot of physical activity stuff together, biking, hiking, tennis, etc.
    Great advice here!

    1. Lisa Eirene

      I think it’s really great that you guys can do so much exercising together.

  5. DefineDiana

    I gained all the weight I had worked so hard to lose when I first started dating then moved in with my Fiance. We both have a weight problem, so we are working on it together. Being on the same page foodwise (for the most part) is really good because we both try to keep each other in check.

    1. Lisa Eirene

      That’s great that you guys are on the same page and trying to lose together. It’s so much easier with a support system (instead of an enabler)!

  6. Andrea @ CanYouStayForDinner.com

    Great advice Lisa! You’ve got such great perspective, and I agree, the main thing is just supporting eachother and not criticizing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’m lucky that Daniel eats well, and pretty much likes anything I make šŸ™‚

    1. Lisa Eirene

      That’s great! My boyfriend Michael is a good cook and we both try to cook things that are healthier. I’m getting a lot better at cooking things we’ll both like (my go-to food used to be casseroles…not his favorite and not that healthy honestly).

  7. Jennifer

    Thanks for this post! Very helpful tips. I spend a lot of time with my BF, and we’re moving in together soon, so I’ll need to be conscious of my food choices since he’s also bigger than me and can eat more than me. Luckily, I’m usually the meal preparer in the relationship, so I can steer us toward healthy foods. But the temptations come when he brings “treats” home. I need to learn to just say “no” and that it’s OK!

    1. Lisa Eirene

      At least you are being proactive about it before you move in. Plus, you are right–it’s okay to say no!

  8. Amanda

    This is all so TRUE! I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and during that time I have gained back the 50 lbs that I lost before meeting my honey. In the last year we have sat down and discussed how I can lose the weight again. Which means getting exercise since we eat pretty healthy. I’ve lost my “Me Time”, my commute to work is an hour long each way, I only have 2 and a half hours from when I get home from work to cook, clean, hang out and then go to bed. Just recently I started taking the bus to work and now I’m able to log 4 miles of walking getting to work and home from the bus stops. I beat myself up a lot for not exercising more, and then I get depressed more. It’s a vicious cycle. You “sacrifice” yourself to take care of your family and home, but really you’re hurting yourself and your loved ones.

    1. Lisa Eirene

      The sacrifice is hard. Michael usually doesn’t make me feel guilty for working out but once in awhile I can tell that he wishes I didn’t work out so much. It makes it hard to plan, or be spontaneous. For example his mom wants to go out to dinner next week for his birthday (which was yesterday) and he booked it for a night I usually go to the gym. Sometimes I can be flexible but he could just tell that I’d prefer if we did it a different night. It takes a lot of time away from “us” doing things together during the week because of that.

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